What They Don’t Tell You About Long-Distance Relationships

They suck. They’re hard. And no matter what your friends say, they don’t understand. Not unless they’ve been in a long-distance relationship.

But they are so¬†worth it, especially when it’s with the right person.

I’ve only been in a long-distance relationship for almost six months now. So, I am not an expert. But there are some things that I think everyone should know about long-distance.

Some people don’t think it is as hard as it really is. I’ve had to drop off my boyfriend at the airport four times now and each time it has gotten harder and harder. There’s no easy solution to calm my tears. My biggest pet peeve is when people say, “Why are you crying? You’re going to see him in a month.” I know I’ll see him again. I just can’t handle driving to the airport and knowing I only have an hour left with him. I can’t handle saying goodbye and watching him walk away to the shuttles at the airport. I can’t handle not being able to do anything about it. All I can do is ask God for strength. Because, letting go of my boyfriend’s hand at the airport and watching him cry as hard as I am breaks my heart. Every trip ends with a mini-heartbreak. It creeps over us and in the back of my mind I know I’ll have to say goodbye to him at the end of the weekend.

That’s what people don’t see. I get sad, because there’s nothing I can do about the distance. Especially since we are both in school. If I could, I’d drive all the way to Milwaukee to visit him. It’d take me 19 hours and hundreds of dollars on gas, so it doesn’t make much sense. But if it was up to me, I’d see him every single day.

The positives of our relationship will always be worth all of the mini-heartbreaks. The distance makes me appreciate him more. So, I will never take my boyfriend or time with him for granted. Every trip we have makes us remember why we love each other so much. It strengthens our relationship. We are forced to develop stronger communication skills. Since we are not in person, we can’t see the other person’s body language. Especially if there is an argument or disagreement. We are forced to talk things through and tell each other what’s on our mind, which betters our relationship. We also have something to look forward to every month. We talk about our upcoming trips for so long, so when the¬†countdown ends we are extremely excited. We always have something to celebrate during our visits, since we don’t get to see each other for every single holiday or anniversary. All the little things become more special.

Long-distance isn’t easy. My boyfriend and I hate it. But it’s something we have to do, because not being together isn’t an option. We just want more support from friends when we get back home. We want someone to actually ask us if we are okay, because more than likely we aren’t. We want people to understand that FaceTime is not the same as face to face. That nothing is better than being in person together. So, the next time you have a friend who is upset about their long-distance boyfriend/girlfriend going home. Please be supportive and comfort them. They’ll really need it.

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